Dressing Like a Slut

I always find it amusing when women say that they don't dress for men, they dress for themselves....... that is such crap. Yeah sure the married mom with four kids whose daily attire now consists of baggy t-shirts and jeans or sweats, yeah they are dressing for themselves. But wearing a low cut blouse and mini skirt? Yeah right. First of all the shorter the skirt the more self concious you are. A simple thing like picking up a penny can easily become as complicated as quantum physics. The exact bending of the knees to maximize leverage while at the same time balancing perfectly on 4 inch red stelettos, while trying not to show your "christmas" and "new years", if the skirt is snug your butt and hips feel like their in a vice grip, and your thinking "Oh dear God please don't rip". Or God forbid its one of those little cheerleader skirts on a windy day. That's fun, cuz now you have to pick up whatever in one hand (oh and your purse and shopping bags are on this arm), and try to hold the back of the skirt with the other hand. And you do this for yourself. No, you do it for the cute guy that was checking you out. The thing that I never understood was women getting mad when guys stared at their breast. (Maybe its cuz I was always small and my attitude was like "Yeah! You found them!") If you're showing cleavage you knew when you put the blouse on you were showing cleavage, and unless your a dyke, you wanted men to look. Now granted there are those cases where some women can't help it. One of my sisters literally grew overnight (curses) and every top that she owned now showed the "girls". Now since we are not rich, she couldn't replace the whole woredrobe, so some tops do show a little and some don't, and she is pretty self concious about it.But ladies guys pretty much can't help it, if they're there showing, they're going to look. It's in their genetic makeup. I'm not saying they can't catch themselves, but don't get pissed off if they have trouble looking you in the eye. I mean hey I almost drove off the road once from staring at a perfect set of abs on a Abrocombe and Finch billboard off of I-75 just past 12 mile rd. I have no idea what the guy looked like I just remember rounding that corner and thinking "God bless that man". Yeah you know they should put a warning sign up a mile or so before they throw a picture up like that. I don't know if I would have made it had not been for those groves on the shoulder of the highway to snap me out of it. (I am of course kidding and said all that to be funny. Can't have you church folk getting bent out of shape.)
If someone would ask me why I used to dress like that. the answer is very simple, I was insecure. Growing up I was a bit chunky and oddly shaped so when I lost weight I wanted guys to notice me, tell me I was pretty, blah, blah, blah. I wanted the guys to pay attention to me like they were paying attention to the other girls at school. Then as I got older I continued to dress like that for the same reasons but also because I was grown and didn't have to sneak anymore, and it iritated everyone. Then one day, a few years back, I just decided to stop dressing like that, and the Lord was dealing with me as well. My family was shocked and began to ask what changed, after all years of their rantings and ravings had no affect. I even started asking my father's opinion on outfits in catelogs. What changed? I got older. I became more confident about myself. I didn't feel this need to "rebel" anymore. But most importantly, I didn't want people thinking I was a slut. When you look like slut guys will treat you accordingly. Not fair? Bull crap. When guys look at girls with everything hanging out vs. a woman who is conservativly dressed its like comparing Motel 6 to the Hyatt. If your just driving through a Motel 6 is cheap and good enough to get you through the night, and you just pray to God it's clean enough to where their aren't any unwanted critters going home with you. The Hyatt on the other hand you have to behave in a certain manner. And if you're at a great resort you book an extended stay. Its classier, cleaner, and the people are act more respectable.Women are always lamemting about the fact that men are such dogs, well could it be that you're frightening all the good ones. You see a good man wants a wife and not a hoe. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. (I have a friend who tried to do that and it was disasterious to say the least.) And even if you're not that way they will think you are. Remember, first impressions are always important, if you want people to think that you're classy and respectable and lady like, try dressing like a lady.