For the Fathers

One late afternoon I had to run into Meijers and picked up a couple of things for my Aunt. I was in a bit of a rush but I saw something so terribly cute that it stopped me dead in my tracks. A man that was about in his late twenties had just finished putting bananas into a plastic bag, and his daughter, who couldn't have been more then three, insisted that she would carry the bananas. I couldn't hear him but I’m fairly good at reading lips.


“It’s too heavy for you.” He said with a smile.

The small cherub shook her head violently, unruly curls slapping her pink cheeks. And with a chuckle the father handed her the bag of bananas. He watched her with a proud smile as she walked 10 feet, struggling with a plastic bag that was half her size, full to the brim with bananas. Then the father walked over and in one smooth motion, with a confident, seemingly reckless ease that only a young father could muster, picked up his daughter, bananas and all. His smile was one of pride as he planted a kiss on her cheeks for she had proved her point, she could carry the bananas.

This scene touched my heart and saddened me at the same time. It touched me because there is nothing on this planet that I love to see more than a man taking care of his children. Dad’s are the first Superhero that a child will ever know. But sadly we live in a day and age where more and more children are growing up without fathers.

Women can harp about independence and feminism all they want. A woman may believe that she doesn't need a man, and maybe its true she doesn't. But her children do.



•63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.

•90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.

•85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)



Look, its simple. Men if you have been lucky enough that God has blessed you with children, be a father, stay in that child’s life. So many times men walk out of a child's life because he is finding it too difficult to deal with the mother.  Thinking that when the child is older then he can explain his side of things.  The problem with that is you miss out on some of thee most important times your child's life.  The only thing that you did was make things easier on yourself.

And Ladies, DO NOT take it out on the kids if your children’s father does not want to be with you.  If he is a good man, a good father, let him spend time with his kids.  It is selfish and cruel for you to not to allow your child to have that relationship.  If your child is lucky enough to have a father that wants to be involved in his child's life, let him be involved.  A father will always be the most important male in your child's life.